Struggle Don’t Last Always

Hey yall and Happy Wednesday!! Hope everyone is doing well tonight and if not then I hope it gets better. Tonight I’m going to talk about struggles, how they affect us and how we can overcome them so let’s get to it!!

Everybody struggles with something at some point in life. Whether it be financial problems, relationships with family, friends or significant others, school, body image or whatever…we all struggle sometimes. And though we all struggle, we all have different ways that we deal with them and how we overcome them. Some people deal with their struggles by using coping mechanisms such as alcohol and/ or drugs to mask their pain and forget about whatever they are going through. Others use therapy, or they turn to God and their faith to see them through.

But how do struggles affect us? For me, I know that I absolutely hate struggling with anything. Whether it’s something big or small, I hate having a hard time with anything. And because I think I’m Superwoman, I rarely admit my struggles or reach out to others for help. So I suffer through unnecessarily and it wears me out both physically and mentally. But guess what, I don’t have to be that way and neither do you!! It’s ok to admit when we are having a hard time with something or someone. It’s perfectly ok to even admit defeat sometimes. There is NO need to drive yourself crazy trying to do everything on your own…..let me repeat that for the people in the back including myself, THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NO NEED TO DRIVE YOURSELF CRAZY TRYING TO DO EVERYTHING ON YOUR OWN. When you surround yourself with people that love and genuinely care about your well being, they will always be there to help you. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

Dealing with and overcoming our struggles can be difficult sometimes depending on what the particular struggle is. People who struggle with alcoholism and/or drug and other addictions may have a harder time overcoming than someone who may be struggling financially. But a struggle is a struggle and they can all be overcome. The 1st step to overcoming is admitting to whatever you are struggling with. For me, my biggest struggles normally come from things that I get myself into such as saying no to people, adding unnecessary stress to my life and not taking out time for myself. Normally these things are hard for me to admit to because I never want to say no to anyone. But because of that I neglect myself a lot and add a lot of pressure and extra stress on myself, But now that I admit it, I know to take the 2nd step to fix it which is to try and eliminate the factors that lead to your struggles. For me that’s meant eliminating some people out of my life because all they did was take and take and take everything that I offered as a whoever I was in their life but they never gave anything. No respect, no love, no positivity…no nothing. So eliminate those things. If you struggle with alcoholism for example, start eliminating the alcohol from your life. Don’t go to places where you know you will be tempted to drink. The 3rd step is to surround yourself with positive people who you trust and know what you are going through and are willing to help you. You are not in this world all alone no matter what you think or believe. Even if God is the only person in your life, surround yourself in Him and His love and let him in to help you overcome.

Life does not have to be a constant struggle. Truth be told, a lot of things that we struggle with we bring upon ourselves and they can be avoided. We can make life easier then what it is a lot of the time but as humans it’s in our nature to make things difficult sometimes, Whatever you are struggling with, give it to the Most High. Turn it over to God. I’ve done it before and could literally feel the weights being lifted off of my shoulders. The old song says Jesus can work it out. No truer words have ever been spoken. Struggling does not have to be a part of your life forever. Identify them, admit them, eliminate the factors contributing to them, pray about them and give them to God. Once you truly give them to God, no worries and no stress, just truly believe that he will handle them.

Well that’s it for me tonight, I hope that this can touch someone who is or has struggled and didn’t know how to handle it. I wish you all nothing but the best. Remember to INSPIRE, ENLIGHTEN, AND ENCOURAGE SOMEONE along your journey. And as usual feel free to comment and share with others. I LOVE hearing from yall and it motivates me to keep going. Remember somebody out there loves you and so do I. Lots of cyber hugs and kisses….

Peace and Blessing to you,

Tiara B.