If at 1st you don’t succeed…

Hey y’all!! So today wasn’t a good day…at all. 1st I spilled coffee all over my desk, I have heat rash on both my arms and can’t stop scratching, I couldn’t finish something that I’ve been working on for 2 weeks all because 1 person wasn’t cooperating and then I had a bad case of writer’s block….all of this before 9am. When I say I wanted to just give up and throw the WHOLE day away, that’s exactly what I mean!! I had the mindset during my hour commute this morning that it’s Wednesday, Hump Day which means Friday will be here before you know it. Football season is about to start and I got to listen to Bernice Jenkins’ Church Announcements before clocking in early this morning, life was going GREAT…..then BOOM!!

These may seem like small problems, nothing that some Clorox wipes, some shea butter and a few detailed emails with screenshots can’t solve and you’re absolutely right because that’s all it took. But for me these were frustrations that threw my whole day off because I’m an odd ball lol. EVERYTHING has to be going right for me to be able to function at 100%. So today I just wasn’t feeling it.  I wanted to call it quits about 100 times today but I didn’t.  In life, I’ve discovered that you CANNOT GIVE  UP when things get hard, you have to KEEP GOING. Life ain’t supposed to be easy, but the challenges are supposed to make us stronger. Giving up is NOT an option. Imagine if every time you ate an ice cream cone, you dropped some on your shirt. Would you give up ice cream? NO, HECK NO for me lol!! You would just eat that ice cream in a cup or find an old shirt to put on.

Life is not going to be easy. There are going to be ups and downs, wins and losses. How you handle those things is what matters. Life for me has been filled with losses, but I had to learn how to spin those losses into wins and lessons. That what it’s all about, wins and lessons learned. Actually I don’t even consider them losses anymore, they are valued lifelong lessons. You can’t just stop living because life has gotten hard. My mom passed a few days after I was born. That has always been the biggest loss in my life and YES I’ve always struggled with it, especially having guilt about it. It took me years to learn that I am among the living and my life has to go on. What better way to go on than to honor my mom and let her and her memories and legacy live on through me??

Some of you may be struggling because your body isn’t perfect, that’s 1 of my struggles too. Don’t give up on working out and a healthy lifestyle (shouting this 1 to myself). Some may be struggling with self confidence, girl look in that mirror and speak affirmations to yourself. You are BEAUTIFUL! You are IMPORTANT! You MATTER! You are ENOUGH! (runs to find my mirror). Whatever it is that has you wanting to give up, GET OVER IT! Climb over that self-doubt. Climb over that not perfect syndrome. Live your life for you and if you aren’t good enough for yourself, do what you have to do to become enough. NEVER NEVER NEVER, EVER EVER EVER  GIVE UP ON YOURSELF!! You are too beautiful and you have too much purpose in this life to give up. Keep pushing and fighting. You are going to fall, you may even fail but as Aaliyah said “If at 1st you don’t succeed, dust yourself off and try again”.

As always…encourage, inspire and enlighten others. Someone out there loves you and I do too. Until next week….. lots of cyber hugs and kisses,

Tiara B.