Hey Y’all and welcome back to Young, Black and Beautiful!! So today I want to encourage you to be your own #WCW. In today’s era of Social Media, most if not all women want to be the coveted Woman Crush Wednesday. Whether it be acknowledged by your boo, your crush, your favorite blogger or whomever, being someone’s #WCW is LIT!! But ask yourself this, are you your own #WCW material? Meaning, do you have a crush on yourself? Would you have a crush on yourself if you where someone else?
When you see your crush , what’s the 1st thing that draws you to them? For me, 1 of the 1st things I notice about a guy is the way that he carries himself. From the way he wears his clothes to his mannerisms, appearance is a biggie. Now ask yourself, how do you carry and present yourself to others? My mama and I’m sure most of yours too has always instilled in me that 1st impressions are how people remember you most. OK, let me break it down. Would a person still be your crush is they didn’t care about their appearance? Umm NO!! So in order to be your own #WCW, you must 1st be presentable to yourself before you can be presentable to others! Leave them bonnets and PJ pants at home, find you some clothes that flatter your shape and fit right and baby work it like you on a runway lol!! Look, I’ve always been a fluffy girl so I have struggled with body image and finding flattering clothes in my size for 29 years, but it can be done! I’m not saying that you have to wear heels and dresses everyday, shoot I barely wear them on Sundays. What I am saying though is that you have to be presentable when in public. Whether its sweatpants and a hoodie, jeans and a t-shirt, or your Sunday’s best, your attire and appearance are a direct reflection of you. You don’t have to keep up the latest fashions, hair do, nails, or makeup but you don’t have to always look like you just woke up and threw on the 1st thing you found either.
Once you’ve taken care of your outward appearance, focus on yourself internally. Are you #WCW material on the inside? Do you treat yourself the way you would want your crush to treat you? Listen, I know for a 100% fact that NOBODY in this world is going to love and treat Tiara better than I can. And by loving myself, I mean physically, mentally and emotionally. I have learned that you have to love your mind, body and soul. Don’t we all want somebody to love, cherish and honor us? Whether it be our families, friends, significant others or whomever, we all want to feel the love. But do we give ourselves the love? Ladies, when we love…we love HARD. We are nurturers by nature, but do we nurture ourselves? I will be the 1st to admit that I haven’t always loved myself, and believe me…it showed. But once I learned that nobody was gonna love me like me, I got myself right on together. We also have to be mindful to not just love our physical bodies, but love your mind and spirit as well. Take care of yourself in all those areas and watch how much you grow and how much more beautiful you become. Once you start loving yourself, you will look and feel so much better.
There are so many attributes that can make a woman a #WCW candidate. And each woman is different. I may posses something that my best friend or co-worker doesn’t and vice versa but we are both equally beautiful. It doesn’t matter if you never make anyone else’s #WCW post as long as you are your own EVERY DAY. Babe, love yourself first. I know it sounds cliché and you maybe thinking that’s easy for me to say but trust me, I’ve been there. I was the chick that was just a real life zombie everyday and couldn’t even recognize myself in the mirror until 1 day I told myself I was beautiful. Others could say it and it meant nothing to me until I told myself. I’ve never had a #WCW post dedicated to me but today I dedicate mine to each and every one of you reading this. Sweetheart, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL INSIDE AND OUT. Be the beautiful woman that you want everyone to be able to see. Love and cherish yourself mind, body and soul. Treat yourself like you are your own crush and love on yourself daily. As always lots of cyber hugs and kisses. Somebody out here loves and cares for you and I do too. Until next week, empower, encourage and inspire yourself and others.
XOXOXO,
Tiara B.
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